Day Of Reckoning ~ A time when the consequences of a course of mistakes or misdeeds are felt ; retribution for one's actions.
I've learned a lot of things during my thirty one years on this planet. One of the most important being how to control my emotions and keep my temper under control. When I was younger, I was a bit hot-headed and impulsive. I would allow my anger to control my words and actions before giving my brain a chance to consider the consequences. I allowed other people's actions and words to catapult me into drama filled situations and arguments that were unnecessary and trivial. This went on for a long time until it finally hit me that allowing myself to descend to such childish levels only reflected poorly upon myself and not those who instigated me to that point.
At this point in my life I am much more in control of my emotions and reactions to situations I am presented. I carefully contemplate my thoughts before I allow myself to react to things that upset or anger me. I don't let myself take much notice to inconsequential people and the nonsense they bring along with them. When people flash their ignorance brightly, especially with things pertaining to my family or me, I try to not to engage but simply disregard. There is one exception to this self imposed rule, when I see my family and/or closest friends being persecuted. I will not stand by idly and remain silent, my protective instincts kick into gear and I will defend those I love infinitely.
Now to set a few things straight. For everyone who likes to call out people on Facebook and comment about things they know nothing about, this is for you. I try my hardest to remain virtuous, but I've reached my limit of hearing and reading distorted truths!!!!
My husband's mother has been a huge thorn in my side since I was nineteen years old. Constantly starting drama, badmouthing me and her own son, negatively influencing her grandson and always stirring up the pot every chance she had. This is not anything new, and has grown quite old over the past few years. My husband and I have distanced ourselves from the chaotic lifestyle his mother leads. Together we decided we did not want that kind of underhanded, callous and venomous presence in our lives. We put distance where distance was needed for our family to healthily thrive. There were no theatrics involved, we simply told the truth and parted ways. We've been dealing with constant bullying and harassment since.
My heart breaks for my husband who's own mother maliciously belittles and defames his character out of contempt. She seizes every opportunity to speak poorly about her own son to anyone who will listen. She has attempted on more than one occasion to cause trouble for him. Her complains are unfounded, hostile and it seems her purpose is only to torment. As a mother myself, I simply can NOT understand how any parent can treat their child like this. As much as my son drives me crazy at times, I have and will ALWAYS stand beside him and guide him. He has my unconditional love and support. I would NEVER do or say the cruel, hurtful, wounding things that this woman has done to her own child. It's completely incomprehensible! There is NO justification in the world that would make her actions acceptable.
I've watched this woman post things publicly about how much she "misses her grandson" and have heard her say that my husband and I have "brainwashed" her grandson against her. I laugh every time, as both of those couldn't be further from the truth. The truth of the matter is, she says those things to simply garner sympathy for her "victim" status. She makes no attempts to visit with, speak to, or have a relationship with my son at all. In the past, when we've entrusted our son in her care, she's encouraged him to lie to us and hide things from us. She has no respect for my husband or I, (even refusing to acknowledge me as his mother) so therefore has no respect for the boundaries we set for our child. She's always been deceitful when it comes to our son and refuses to respect our wishes. In good conscience, can we be blamed for wanting to protect our child from that kind of nefarious influence? My heart breaks for my son, who loves his mom-mom and wishes she could be a bigger part of our lives. He is a teenager now, and has a good sense of what is going on around him. My husband and I have ALWAYS shielded him from negative talk of anyone including her! We want him to come to his own conclusions about people but we have faith he will see their true colors on his own.
IN CONCLUSION
I've chosen to keep my disdain to myself until recent postings pushed me over the limit. For Sue and her little minions who like to throw their two cents in publicly for all to see, let me put this in terms you can understand. Posting drama on Facebook is fucking petty and childish. You ALL seem to have the intellect of middle school students (that means you're all stupid). You should keep your mouths shut especially when you are only listening to one side of a story. Your opinion means nothing, to anyone, as YOU mean nothing either. It's about time you all grow up and move on with your unfulfilled, meaningless lives and stop talking shit on Facebook, especially on a page where the one you are talking about cannot even defend themselves. If you are one of these assholes who commented on the ridiculously lame Facebook post I am referring to, please feel free to come see me so we can talk about this further.
